Dating the single parent
I got a lot of interest and requests to go out when that one tiny detail of me being a full-time-no-breaks-no-weekends-away or shared custody-no circle of friends or grandparents how to even attempt to date a single mom.
(I get it, NOT ALL GUYS are clueless and if you met yours online, awesome! ) I figured maybe I’d put out a kind of PSA if you will, for those of you who are actually considering dating a single mom: 1.) Realize the cost of childcare: It may just be a coffee or drink out of your pocket, but for the single mom you’re asking out it’s SO much more.
” After that statement, the whole date was just sort of a wash. If you can’t stand up to the fact that she’s surveying your every move for any signs of “dad-like” characteristics, or you wouldn’t even consider going to help her if she texts you last minute to cancel a date because her kids are all taking turns throwing up on her, then don’t ask her out. 5.) Honor the “baggage:” Look, as humans, we’ve all got baggage, but single parents seem to have a couple extra bags.
Kids hard when you’re a single parent, but they’re also my everything. Understand there was someone before, either an ex- and parent of her child, or in a widow’s case, a husband and father will never be forgotten and who will always be loved, always.
It’s a tall order, I get it, but if you can do that or at least try to find out, go for it and kudos to you.
I’m certainly no expert in the field of dating, to be honest, my attempt at dating is really just clumsily feeling my way through the awkwardness, and I really, really dislike the whole process.
2.) Time is precious, don’t waste hers: I was recently asked out to a coffee shop date.
It isn’t that big of a disruption in day-to-day life.
Hell, once they can eat and get dressed on their own, they can practically babysit themselves, right?
Dating can be so stressful and overwhelming, but if you look at it with the right perspective, it’s also a huge opportunity to learn about yourself and others.
I’ve learned what to look for and what I’m OK with and what I’m definitely NOT OK with.