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Looking past the important twenty-something years of dating, Riley explores how interfaith families respond to the later challenges and complexities of raising children when the partners don’t agree on religion. This seems on the surface to be a counterintuitive argument—if Mormons are kind and accepting of interfaith marriages and the people in them, as Riley claims from her interviews and research (and as our family has experienced firsthand, with only a few exceptions in two decades), wouldn’t the opposite be true?
This is difficult in the LDS faith, where so much is expected of ordinary members. Wouldn’t there be more interfaith, part-Mormon marriages? Because of Mormonism’s strong emphasis on missionary work, approximately a third of part-member marriages will become same-faith marriages when the other spouse converts, sometimes many years down the road.
It’s not just a matter of which church to attend; what about tithing? Riley says that in Mormonism, there is no stigma attached to being in a part-member marriage. (Incidentally, non-Mormon wives are almost twice as likely to convert to Mormonism as non-Mormon husbands.) These numbers are far higher than postmarital conversions in other religions, particularly in Judaism.
For example, there is no shaming of interfaith children (like one story in the book of an evangelical Sunday School teacher who told one of her students that Mommy was going to hell because she didn’t come to church–! But instead of creating more interfaith marriages, this persistent, long-term welcome mat actually cuts down on such marriages because . There are several stories in the book of non-Jewish spouses who decided to convert but had to repeatedly bang on the door of the synagogue to be accepted, since conversion is not the norm.
Mormons, by contrast, exude a “calm and quiet confidence that there are important truths to be found in the LDS faith” and that “their community is one that people should want to join.” This to me is the most surprising reason for the low rates of part-Mormon marriages.
Frankly, a whole lot of Americans flat-out don’t like us, or at least don’t know much about us.
Interfaith marriage tends to increase when a religious group becomes assimilated, which is slowly happening with Mormons.
Not much has changed since then except that my husband is now Episcopalian instead of Methodist, and our daughter—who was given the right to choose for herself when she turned eight, the Mormon age of accountability—has generally followed in his Episcopalian footsteps, with time off the Canterbury Trail now and again to attend YW activities and LDS ward potlucks. And sure, there are compromises, but a healthy marriage is built on mutual compromise.I was a guest cohost on a Christian radio show when a call came from a man named Wade.He said that he was a Christian, loved the Lord, and had a Mormon girlfriend he was considering marrying. It was similar to telling us that he had been robbing banks, and asking what we thought of it.I let my cohost answer first, and while he was talking, I felt a little hesitant because I wanted to ask Wade if he and his girlfriend were having sex.I took courage and asked, and after a moment of deafening silence, he said that they were. I gently told him that he had no fear of God, evidenced in the fact that he ignored the clear command not to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever (2 Corinthians ).